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3 Reasons You Should Never Chase Women As A Man (A MUST READ)

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As a man when you see a lady that you like, you might be tempted to start doing aggressive chase.

Even when the girl says NO! You still want to keep putting in the effort, thinking she will later succumb and say yes when she sees your efforts. Lol!! It doesn’t always work like that.

So, in this article, we will be touching on 2 things, the first will be why women always like men to chase them and why it’s a bad idea for you as a guy to actually chase women.

So, drag a seat, relax and read on because I’ve got so many things for you in this article.

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There are 2 reasons why women love it when you chase them. Let’s get into it.

1. She’s Not Into You But Wants To Use You To Boost Her Fine Girl Ego

When a woman is really into you, depending on her age, level of experience, and stuff like that, she will be more than willing not to drag things out just because of the thrill she may feel about being chased.

So now when a woman really likes you, it’s quite easy to see, you know, in her speech in her availability in her body language, in things that she does when you are around.

However, if you’re the one who seems to always be doing the chasing, then you’re in trouble because it means that she’s not into you, she probably has multiple suitors, and you’re not the top on her list.

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So she would want you to work a little harder to try to win her and in the process, she will be the one enjoying all the care, gifts, and things you’re doing.

And the more you’re showing the love when she’s not reciprocating, she feels on top of the world.

2. She Doesn’t Feel Safe With You But Enjoys Seeing You Try

The second reason women make you do the chasing is that she probably is not feeling safe with you because she’s had some really bad previous experiences where the male gender is concerned, and is being weary.

So she has all these barricades and walls up in a way to sort of protecting her heart. And so she would let you actually work really hard to win her affection over.

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She feels as if the harder man is willing to work for her affection and her attention, the more dedicated he will be, um, that usually, though is not the case.

It’s also a known fact that there are some men who just chase for the thrill and not necessarily because they want to take women seriously. Guys, am I right?

So, these are two major reasons women will want you to chase them.

They’re not that into you. Or they’ve just had really terrible experiences and want to be sure that you’re actually who you say you are or they just want to enjoy the cruise of you trying.

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3 Reasons You Shouldn’t Chase Women As A Man

1. Your Dreams Are Harder To Achieve, Chase Them

Firstly, I feel if your main focus is to chase a woman, it diverts your attention from actually pursuing the things that I think really matter in life.

Let me ask you, What are your goals? What are your aspirations? What is it that you want to do with your life? What are your dreams, now’s the time to make those dreams come true.

Now, if you’re busy spending time chasing women, instead of chasing your dreams, then a couple of years down the line, you’re going to realize that your dreams are even harder to attain, and you’ve wasted a lot of time.

So I think rather than chasing women, focus on your dreams. And guess what, once you do become successful, guess who’s going to be chasing you? women!

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So don’t chase women. Chase your dreams. If you successfully manage to check those dreams. The women will come number two.

2. You’d Be Seen As Desperate And Pathetic

Now the second reason men shouldn’t Chase women is that you come across as desperate and sometimes even pathetic, especially when the feeling is not mutual.

The love is unrequited and so much more. I have a friend who was chasing a girl and won’t just want to take no for an answer.

The girl was not even trying to play hard to get she genuinely did not want to be with him in the first place. The girl practically opened up that she doesn’t find him attractive.

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The girl confided in us who are his friends that it had nothing to do even with his looks necessarily, but there’s something about his personality that just didn’t seem to gel with hers.

Anyway, so long story short, my guy kept pursuing the girl, kept calling her, kept wanting to see her, and all of that.

He was even buying gifts and doing boyfriend’s duty when the girl clearly said NO!

As a guy, you’d be perceived as classy and respected if you walk away the minute a woman said no to you.

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If you’re trying to make an effort to get to know a girl and got any kind of negative vibe, just cut your losses, and move on.

My Own Personal Experience

I once had the same experience once, a girl said no to me and I let her understand that I respected her decision and we should just forget about the whole feelings thing.

I could sense she expected a further chase as she didn’t expect that I will move so fast. People like us don’t have the time. 😂

And I think that’s what a lot of men need to do. Because, if you do get that kind of woman who already knows what she wants, is a go-getter herself, or has really big dreams that she’s personally trying to smash, then, you know, this would become a really big turnoff for her if you’re desperately looking for attention.

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She’s told you in more ways than she’s not interested, but you keep pursuing because you feel as if, the more you push, one day, she’s going to give in.

Hell, NO! my brother, back off because it does not work, and trust me, if you have to work too hard to get someone’s attention, consider this, it actually might mean that you’re forcing her into a relationship with you.

Now, who wants to beg another person to be in a relationship with them, especially if they’re not interested? Waste of time, waste of energy, waste of money.

So whatever it is, do not chase women, you will be perceived as desperate or pathetic. If she says no, just cut your losses and move on.

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Afterall, there are of course, quite a number of fish in the sea.

3. If You Begin A Relationship With Chase, You Will Chase Till The End

I believe that whatever you start, you need to finish if you begin a relationship with a woman and you’re always the one doing the chasing, then you’ve got to chase all through the relationship.

For instance, when you met her, you actively chased her pursued her. And over time, yes, you were successful.

Do you want her attention? Guess what? She’s now the prize, you’re going to have to work harder and overtime to be able to maintain that attention that she’s giving you.

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Do you put her on a higher pedestal just because you’re the one who does the chase, were on another level, I believe that you could actually level the playing ground.

If you do not chase? Yes, you can make yourself available, you can let her know your intentions. But to chase No, you wouldn’t do that.

If she’s also someone who is used to having men chase her, she’s going to be wondering, why isn’t this guy chasing me?

And then her attention is going to suddenly switch to not see all the guys who are coming her way. But you who is not even paying attention? Really? Why does that happen?

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Her Curiosity will be piqued. And suddenly, she’ll be more interested in getting to know you. Of course, this does not happen every single time.

So I guess what I’m really trying to say is, if you start to chase, you continue to chase in that relationship, it’s always going to be you working a little harder to make things happen.

It’s always going to be you making the extra sacrifice to keep the relationship going.

Because you already set the precedence for chasing, trust me, you’re probably going to be the only one working overtime to maintain that relationship.

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And over time, you’ll probably also get very worn out and tired of always being the one to try. So basically, don’t start what you can’t finish.

Because you and I both know you’re not going to chase it for the rest of her life.

You came to the relationship with some level of aggression, or some level of commitment with some level of promise and she is going to want to demand those things constantly to keep the relationship going.

And you on the other hand, may not be in that same position. Why do you continue to campaign after the election is over?

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There’s no need to so while you’re cruising in the relationship, She’s demanding so much more of you because you already set the precedence and you’re going to have to maintain it.

Whichever way you want to look at it, give the same energy you’re getting in a relationship back. As a man, don’t be hopelessly helpless in a relationship.

So Guy, What Are Your Thoughts On This?

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Common Red Flags In Relationships You Shouldn’t Ignore (WATCH VIDEO)

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In relationships, there are non-negotiable red flags people often ignore.

In most cases, people’s minds and emotions get clouded with the need to be in love that they often decide to manage to cope with some Red-Flags behaviour of their partners.

Today on Family Life With Adeola, we shall be talking about relationship red-flags no one should ignore in relationships.

You will learn a lot from this. Drag a seat and Enjoy!!

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5 Important Values To Long Lasting Relationship (WATCH VIDEO)

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It takes commitment to build a successful relationship.

There are countless life scenarios that might arise and put your partnership’s strength and unity to the test.

Having basic principles that are congruent will give you the strength and confidence you need to get past those stumbling blocks together.

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Therefore, what are relationships value? They are the guiding ideas that guide your actions; they are your personal perspectives about yourself, others, and the world.

The foundations of how you spend your life are your core principles. On this edition of Family Life With Adeola, we will be taking you through the core values of every relationships.

This values are what make your relationship stronger in the phase of any challenges that may come your way.

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Mr. Jollof: Once A Blind Man, Now A Hungry Man?

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Involvement of some celebrities in politics can easily be adjudged to be patriotism or passionate show of concern for troubles the masses are facing with bad leadership.

Some are genuine in their words and actions while some are two-faced nonentities always doing everything to make themselves politically relevant just to eat in the political cake when it’s time. Mr. Jollof could be one big part of the latter.

During the COVID-19 era Mr. Jollof was one of the most vocal celebrities talking about how Nigerian politicians were handling the menace caused by the virus.

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It was really a critical time for Nigerians. Many private companies stood up to save the nation with huge donations only for government officials to hoard some Covid-19 relief materials.

This was the same period Bullion Van loaded with cash entered Bourdillon which ofcourse caused controversies. Mr. Jollof weighed in on the controversy and shred apart the man in bourdillon in a well-planned social media video

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The same politician you blasted years ago is now all of a sudden your anointed presidential candidate. The APC leader might not be aware of the viral video Mr. Jollof did to attack him that year but it’s certain his son Seyi Tinubu who introduced Jollof to his father as a fan knew.

Why does he have to deceive his father about Mr. Jollof?

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Apparently, they might be trying to work on getting the active backings of as much celebrities as possible against campaign period, so the seemingly hungry ones would be easy to catch first.

Internet Never Forgets

Just because internet never forgets, Mr. Jollof was challenged by fans with the old video of him blasting Tinubu, his response was “I was blind that time”.

Obviously, the blind man of 2years ago is now hungry and needs to eat the political cake that is about to be served.

This is to call on Nigerians to vote their conscience and beware of chameleon celebrities who might be trying to influence their voting decision in the next general elections.

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Mr. Jollof is just one out of many that will still show face beware!!

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The Three Major Requirements Of A Good Relationship

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Many people, after they’ve been in a couple for some time, will privately admit that they are – in many ways – frustrated and disappointed by the person they’ve chosen to share their lives with.

If pressed for details, they will have no difficulty coming up with a list: their partner, they might complain: Is too loyal to their irritating, family doesn’t share their views on the layout of the living room, Never wants to go on camping holidays, Plays tennis every Wednesday evening no matter what, Doesn’t like Moroccan food, Doesn’t share their enthusiasm for 19th century Russian novels, Has a habit of adding ‘actually’ to every second sentence, when it’s actually redundant.

As the list gets longer, they sigh; they still love their partner and long to be happy together, it’s just that it seems impossibly complicated to make this relationship work. What’s driving the frustration isn’t that they’ve sadly fallen for an idiot as a mate; it’s rather that we have all inherited needlessly complicated ideas of what a relationship is supposed to be for.

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We are told that love is meant to involve the almost total merger of two lives: we expect that a loving couple must live in the same house, eat the same meals together every night, share the same bed, go to sleep and get up at the same time; only ever have sex with (or even sexual thoughts about) each other, regularly see each others’ families, have all their friends in common – and pretty much think the same thoughts on every topic at every moment.

It’s a beautiful vision, but a hellish one too, for it places an impossibly punitive burden of expectation on another human. We feel the partner must be right for us in every way, and if they’re not, has to be prodded and cajoled into reform. But there’s another perspective: relationships don’t have to be so complicated and ambitious if we keep in view what in the end actually makes them fulfilling.

If we boil matters down, there might really just be three essential things we want from one another:

Kindness: a partner who is gentle with our imperfections and can good-humouredly tolerate us as we are.

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Shared vulnerability: someone with whom we can be open about our anxieties, worries and the problems that throw us off balance: someone we don’t have to put on a good front for; someone around whom we can be weak, vulnerable and honest – and who will be the same around us.

Understanding: someone who is interested in, and can make sense of, certain obscure features of our minds: our obsessions, preoccupations and ways of seeing the world. And whom we are excited to understand in turn.

If we have these three critical ingredients to hand, we will feel loved and essentially satisfied whatever differences then crop up in a hundred other areas. Perhaps our partner’s friends or routines won’t be a delight, but we will be content.

Just as if we lack these emotional goods, and yet agree on every detail of European literature, interior design and social existence, we are still likely to feel lonely and bereft. By limiting what we expect a relationship to be about, we can overcome the tyranny and bad temper that bedevils so many lovers.

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A good, simpler – yet very fulfilling – relationship could end up in a minimal state: we might not socialise much together. We might hardly ever encounter each other’s families. Our finances might overlap only at a few points.

We could be living in different places and only meet up twice a week. Conceivably we might not even ask too many questions about each other’s sex life. But when we would be together it would be profoundly gratifying, because we would be in the presence of someone who knew how to be kind, vulnerable and understanding.

A bond between two people can be deep and important precisely because it is not played out across all practical details of existence.

By simplifying – and clarifying – what a relationship is for we release ourselves from overly complicated conflicts – and can focus on our urgent underlying needs to be sympathised with, seen and understood.

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